How to Use a Vibrator: Tips From Sex and Wellness Experts

This cheekily named Four Play set from Evolved involves four toys in one. “Just as much as they’re good for solo play, they’re also perfect to use during intercourse, as they’re unintimidating and small enough not to get in the way,” Alvarez Story says. “Bullet vibes are only designed for external use, not as much for insertion,” as they don’t have a flared base so they shouldn’t be used anally. But ironically, women’s sexual pleasure was the furthest thing from the minds of the male doctors who invented vibrators almost two centuries ago. Therein hangs a strange tale that provides quirky insights into both the history of sex toys and cultural notions about women’s sexuality. So when I heard about a three-in-one toy from Playboy’s Pleasure line called the Vibrato ($136, babeland.com), which functions as a wand vibrator, a vibrating dildo, and a G-spot stimulator, I decided to give it a spin.

Like the Magic Wand, it’s corded, so it can’t die on you mid-solo session. Meanwhile, the aluminum and titanium handle adds some heft, which increases the amount of pressure this vibe can deliver. We still think these toys are worth recommending, even though they didn’t make it into our top picks. (After all, every wand vibe can’t be the best!) Find even more SELF staffer and expert favorites below. Another highly praised rabbit-style vibrator is the We Vibe Nova ($149), which features a flexible arm that moves with you and has 10 vibration settings. This two-in-one vibrator has a far more modern design than the original Rabbit vibrator.

You can sync the Lush with music, Chaturbate, and Cam4, giving you unlimited patterns in addition to the pre-set choices. Meanwhile, the fixed tail keeps it in place, and the maximum 43 dB sound level ensures that your pleasure stays discreet. That’s why this our top choice and officially one of the best remote control vibrators. Our tester was blown away by the quality and intuitive tech of this vibrator , giving it five stars. “At the higher end of the price spectrum vibrator, this rabbit is basically a mini sex robot, so it’s worth the investment if the combination of physical massage and vibration is something you’re into,” they praised. Selecting an appropriate venue sets the stage for a memorable public play experience.

Palm vibrators are named for the fact that they fit into, yep, the palm of your hand. Most have a slightly curved shape that enables them to rest on your vulva hands-free when you’re lying down, Wright says. Since they have a larger surface area than some other toys, they can diffuse sensations across the vulva, beyond the clit. This egg vibrator has a rounded shape for easy entry into the vagina, as well as a silicone loop for seamless removal. Thanks to the motion sensors in the remote control, you can shift between eight patterns and different speeds just by tilting your hand.

It’s versatile, waterproof and easy, giving you the power trip you need for full-body relaxation. Customers especially like the smoothness of the medical-grade silicone body. The big difference between this sex toy and other clitoral suction toys is the larger size mouth. According to the people at Lelo, this means the “vibrations are spread with equal intensity across the whole clitoris, not just in its centre, which leads to a sensual, slow build-up of orgasm”. This vibrator is battery-operated, so not rechargeable, but plenty of user reviews say it has plenty of power.

Its hands-free vibrations can be controlled via Bluetooth using the Lovense app, which also allows you to pass the controls to a partner, whether they’re located halfway around the world or lying right next to you in bed. The Dame Aer is the first air-suction toy that we’ve liked better than our previous picks from Womanizer (the first brand to offer this technology). It’s significantly smaller and narrower than the Womanizer Classic we also like, and it’s made from a softer silicone material that’s more comfortable against the body. Most notably, of all the suction toys we’ve tried, the Aer produces a sensation that feels most similar to oral sex, according to our testers.